Noncustodial Parents – The Big Picture

Here’s the big picture folks:

The more that I listen and pay attention, the more everyone’s story starts to sound the same – and when people’s stories are the same, then their problems tend to stem from the same source…

Here’s what I think the source of this problem is based on what I have learned so far over the last few years:

‘We’ are part of a welfare system that requires the large-scale production of a predetermined outcome in order to remain operational; that outcome is the creation of a child-support paying noncustodial parent. Arrival at this predetermined outcome will be reached by whatever means necessary through the state courts (by use of PPO’s, false allegations, falsified or ignored psychological reports, forced mediation or arbitration, etc…) because reaching this outcome is required for the states to receive mass amounts of federal money through Title IV-D of the Social Security Act. Title IV-D covers Child Support Enforcement, and without court-created “absent” (aka. noncustodial) parents – there would be no child support to collect or orders to enforce, and thus no need to employ thousands in the support enforcement bureaucracy – which would in-turn mean no federal funding flowing into the states, and no help balancing state budgets. This is why they try to collect more and more by increasing the amount of support you pay – even after your kids graduate and your payments are supposed to decrease or stop…

Because this federal welfare program (Child Support Enforcement IS inherently defined as a welfare program because it is part of the federal laws that created welfare) provides BILLIONS of free money to the states ($4.2 Billion in 2006), the states have devised ways to profit from this program and to use this federal funding to balance state budgets while operating bloated bureaucracies that employ thousands of people in NC/SC alone.

From a statewide perspective, the courts and their agents/employees (aka. friends of the court in NC/SC) are dividing-and-conquering those who turn to the family courts for help with their family problems by creating the illusion that every case is individual. The courts put up a smoke-screen and fool parents into giving up their parental authority to the state/court through the use of intimidation tactics. The people employed by the system have no problem sleeping at night because they themselves don’t even know how the system works entirely – they just know that people bring their problems to them, and they have to solve them by creating a noncustodial parent who pays child support… They make use of whatever intimidation tactics made available to them by our state laws and beyond (threat of jail, removal of parenting time, etc…) to accomplish the task of noncustodial parent creation and child support collection – because “that’s just how it has to be” if people are going to turn to the court for help and leave the decision making up to the courts and their agents.

The courts have found a way to capitalize on people’s problems, so the courts reward one parent for bringing their problems into court: The more problems that are brought to them, the more noncustodial parents they can create, the more child support is due and enforceable, and the more people they can hire and expand their “business” of administering welfare services to the middle-class. It’s a little-known fact that middle-class family cases make up an overwhelming majority (approximately 75-80%) of the state’s circuit courts’ caseload – that’s a cash-cow that keeps people employed, and creates new government jobs for others – which is a win-win for the state, and for newly mass-produced child support recipient custodial parents.

Federal Title IV-D welfare funding provides monetary incentives to the state courts to manufacture “absent parent” environments – so the inadvertent incentive of receiving free money (aka “child support”) is also given/handed down to one parent as well: Since one parent MUST be labeled “noncustodial” and ordered to pay support, that means that the OTHER parent will inevitably be the RECIPIENT of that support (unless the court can get rid of both parents and make them both pay the state – which is a different story covered under Title IV-E)… so the court rewards a parent for creating problems and bringing them to the court to solve. What a better way for a vindictive person to get back at their soon-to-be ex spouse than by “winning” possession of the kids in court – and possession of the checkbook!!! How’s that for an incentive?

The courts do such a good job of dividing-and-conquering and smoke-screening people that almost EVERYONE in the system thinks that either they are alone or that the system is just biased towards fathers/men. These things couldn’t be farther from the truth – and they have been helping to successfully distract the public from the real issue. The state and the state/family courts are NOT biased; instead they ARE color-blind: They see only ONE color… GREEN. They have figured out a way to make money on people’s problems and they justify it by making the public think that they are helping KIDS.

The system has become so successful because it is SO complicated that no average person wants to or has the resources to figure out how it all works from the top down – all the public hears is that kids are being helped, so they think everything is peachy-keen. It’s easy for those working to perpetuate the system to say that their main focus is “helping kids” because nobody really understands how and why the system is actually instead HURTING kids – nobody knows how it all really works.

If you follow the money though, you will inevitably trace your seemingly individual problem back to bigger issue of the Social Security Act, welfare, and Child Support Enforcement. You will find that your individual problem is not so individual at all. You will find that the Carolina’s alone have mass-produced MILLIONS of fatherless/single-parent homes just so that the state can remain financially operational – all at our CHILDREN’S expense.

The sad reality is this: Once you are in the system – you are done-for. Your details may differ, but your outcome will be no different than the millions of others who have faced the same fate as you. Nobody wants to deal with this reality though – so people tend to individualize things because that makes the problem easier to deal with. This problem has nothing to do with any individual though. Everyone in this group with an existing case may be experiencing different specific things – but the outcome is all the same: The state has created a child-support paying noncustodial parent and is using whatever means available to force that parent into paying as much as possible so the state can collect the money and in-turn receive federal funding for doing so… Plain and simple.

Because everyone tends to individualize things, they start believing that litigation must be the answer – and that somehow “justice” will prevail. The truth couldn’t more opposite. The truth is that there is no answer for your individual case… Let me repeat myself: YOU ARE DONE-FOR.

Here’s the deal… Once you become involved in this system, you have two choices: 1) Shut-up and pay-up, or face jail – or 2) Educate yourself and others on how the system works, then raise your voice and demand change… and face jail as well for doing so.

Either way, the threat of going to jail will never cease… but the choice is yours to make whether or not you are going to do nothing and risk jail – or do something and help change things for when your kids are older.

Whatever decision is made, always remember that our only crime is that we demand equal time… and their solution to our family problems is to further the destruction of our already fracturing families simply because it keeps people employed.